Resilience - Twenty Tips

1. Grieve your losses. Otherwise they will haunt you.
2. Stay close to friends, family, and community. Don't isolate yourself.
3. Go to bed for a while. Then get up,
4. Go to the ocean. Sit a while at its edge. It has something to say to you. Listen.
5. Find a creative outlet. Write. Paint. Journal. Draw. Make a collage. Garden.
    It will transform the pain into something beautiful.
6. Seek support when you need it.  There is no shame in asking for help.
7. Cuddle with something little and cute. A puppy. A kitty.  A baby.
8. Get a massage.
9. Read Rilke.
10. Work at something you love.
11. Be open to the gift.
12. Walk.
13. Until you have the energy, only surround yourself with people who understand.
14. Light candles. Soak in the tub with lavender  or  rosemary salts.
15. Cry when you need to.  Eventually you will stop.
16. Become comfortable with solitude.
17. Be in the moment.
18. Sunflowers are happy. Get some.
19. Don't judge yourself. Treat yourself like you would treat your best friend.
20. Give Thanks.